Monthly Archives: October 2014

Love, God and the Art of French Cooking by James F. Twyman

“Love, God and the Art of French Cooking” is a beautiful book about James F. Twyman’s  journey into his own self in search for happiness that is to his surprise supported by Roger Dufau, a French chef who together with his wife Kathleen owns a sweet B&B “Drew House” in Elora, just outside of Toronto.

How did James get there? Well, he and his girlfriend at the time decided to have a short holiday at Drew House to find out in which direction their relationship might go. The answer comes faster than expected. The next day Michele drives off, leaving James, because she says they are too different. He is quite perplex and in this moment is being met by Roger who then invites him for breakfast and for talking. And that’s where it all begins. Suddenly the French chef turns out to be a spiritual teacher as well and together they explore joy, real happiness and the role of food in our life.

“Love is what is important.” is Roger’s main teaching and he applies it not only to his life but also to food and his cooking and everything else he is doing. “Whatever brings us joy, we do; and what makes us feel sick, we don’t.” is something he teaches James very early on.

“You don’t deserve to be happy.” is one of the hidden beliefs from his past that James finds deep down inside during the time he spends alone at Drew House. He realises that all his life he has been searching for money and fame, because he believed that without it he wasn’t deserving love. He thought he was unable to attract lasting love, because he wasn’t powerful or rich enough. Now he comes to realise that although having been successful and having earned lots of money, he doesn’t feel abundant. During his conversations with Roger he is finally ready to let go of those old beliefs and embrace the uncertainty of not knowing how his life is going to turn out now. Not knowing where he is going from there.

Roger teaches a lot of beautiful and wise lessons about real abundance, choosing love instead of fear, embracing uncertainty which really is life and about combining your passion with service so that others can enjoy it too. James finally learns the most important lesson in life which is loving yourself and also to enjoy every moment and every imperfection in life.

I encourage you to read that book. It contains so much wisdom. I have taken 5 pages of handwritten notes for myself to remember the wisdom and be able to have a quick look at it now and then during my day. It really is beautiful and wise.

The coolest thing for me which I found at the end of the book are the cooking classes Roger Dufau and James F. Twyman have filmed together. In these videos they share some of the thoughts and teachings that James received from Roger at Drew House. And of course Roger also shares some quick recipes. The recipes aren’t really suitable for vegetarians or lactose-intolerant people like me, but the way of dealing with food with love and respect and all that Roger does is one that you can apply to whatever dish you prepare. So I encourage everybody to watch those videos. Here is the link to the videos: http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=roger+dufau

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The Importance of Being Extraordinary – Dr. Wayne Dyer & Eckhart Tolle

I would like to introduce you to the dialogue “The Importance of Being Extraordinary” between Dr. Wayne W. Dyer and Eckhart Tolle that has actually become very famous already. So you might already know it. But anyway. I find it deeply inspiring and sometimes it’s just fun.

It all revolves around the topics of being, paying attention, present moment awareness, consciousness. Different terms meaning the same thing. What I find most interesting about it is that two people exchange their views on basically the same topic, but the words they are using and the way they explain it, are very different. Sometimes they even tell the same story in different ways. I find that fascinating. Eckhart Tolle even addresses that at some point and says that he is using different words for one thing, because different words speak to different people.

Eckhart Tolle speaks about Being vs. Doing and how both are part of this universe and part of our life. The universe wants to create (Doing) and also wants to know, experience itself through us (Being). The challenge for us is to be aware of who we really are and do, create, but without loosing ourselves in the process.

Wayne Dyer says “You can be an extraordinary being and still have the ordinary in you.” With ordinary he means paying taxes, filling out forms etc. But he also clearly says that he wants us to be extraordinary. He wants us to not just be people who fill out forms and follow rules but people who look beyond that, people who know their soul and it’s wish to ever expand. He clearly points to “The Importance of Being Extraordinary”.

Eckhart Tolle asks the audience “Can you sense the infinity of your being now in this moment?” Which means not to derive your identity from your mind, i.e. the stories in your head, which is what usually happens. “Can you sense that within you there is an unconditioned consciousness, deep aliveness that has nothing to do with your history?”

Eckhart Tolle further explains that many people identify either with their body or with their psychological self-image (thoughts, ideas). Those two are permanently changing. They are impermanent. And neither of them is who we truly are. Wayne Dyer talks about Muktananda being asked “What is real?” He answers: “That is real which never changes.”

The funniest part of the whole dialogue for me is always (I have listened to it several times) when they talk about the Watkins’ list of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People on which by the time of the talk Wayne Dyer is No. 3 and Eckhart Tolle No. 1. They actually use it as an example of showing how the ego deals with that and how the pure consciousness doesn’t give any meaning to such thing. It’s something to laugh about and to learn with.

If you would like to listen to this dialogue, there are three possibilities. There is a DVD, a CD set or an audio download.

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