“I Can See Clearly Now” by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer is a fascinating book that I have read for the second time in the past weeks following Wayne’s passing. It spans his whole life from 1,5 years of age until his early 70’s. And right in the first chapter it becomes clear to the reader that there is something in this little boy Wayne that’s different from other people. He sees opportunities for fun where others feel frustrated. He doesn’t know sadness and instead makes everyone laugh. The way people know him as a speaker onstage – in this book he shows that he has always been like that, that he was born like that.
From a very early age, due to being put in orphanages, he takes care of himself and follows his own interests. And already as a child he also takes a stand for weaker children that are being bothered by others. All these traits that he showed as the famous author and speaker he was, he already possessed and showed as a child. I found this absolutely fascinating to realise.
The book contains 58 chapters and each chapter is divided into two parts. In the first part he tells a story from the past. In the second part he analyses what happened back then from his current point of awareness. I have never before read a book like that and I love it. Several times while reading it prompted me to look back at my own life and major turning points. In his Afterword Wayne encourages the reader to do just that.
Wayne goes through his life chronologically and writes about the major steps and turning points in his life. His childhood, living in orphanages, school time, university, his life as a professor and later as an author. Being a father, why he wrote which book, what he did to promote them. The most fascinating thing for me are his internal development processes that he writes about in detail. From self-reliance and self-actualization at the beginning of his life to spirituality and God-realization at the end of his life. This is a journey worth reading.
I hope you enjoy the book as much as I did.
“Love, God and the Art of French Cooking” is a beautiful book about James F. Twyman’s journey into his own self in search for happiness that is to his surprise supported by Roger Dufau, a French chef who together with his wife Kathleen owns a sweet B&B “Drew House” in Elora, just outside of Toronto.
How did James get there? Well, he and his girlfriend at the time decided to have a short holiday at Drew House to find out in which direction their relationship might go. The answer comes faster than expected. The next day Michele drives off, leaving James, because she says they are too different. He is quite perplex and in this moment is being met by Roger who then invites him for breakfast and for talking. And that’s where it all begins. Suddenly the French chef turns out to be a spiritual teacher as well and together they explore joy, real happiness and the role of food in our life.
“Love is what is important.” is Roger’s main teaching and he applies it not only to his life but also to food and his cooking and everything else he is doing. “Whatever brings us joy, we do; and what makes us feel sick, we don’t.” is something he teaches James very early on.
“You don’t deserve to be happy.” is one of the hidden beliefs from his past that James finds deep down inside during the time he spends alone at Drew House. He realises that all his life he has been searching for money and fame, because he believed that without it he wasn’t deserving love. He thought he was unable to attract lasting love, because he wasn’t powerful or rich enough. Now he comes to realise that although having been successful and having earned lots of money, he doesn’t feel abundant. During his conversations with Roger he is finally ready to let go of those old beliefs and embrace the uncertainty of not knowing how his life is going to turn out now. Not knowing where he is going from there.
Roger teaches a lot of beautiful and wise lessons about real abundance, choosing love instead of fear, embracing uncertainty which really is life and about combining your passion with service so that others can enjoy it too. James finally learns the most important lesson in life which is loving yourself and also to enjoy every moment and every imperfection in life.
I encourage you to read that book. It contains so much wisdom. I have taken 5 pages of handwritten notes for myself to remember the wisdom and be able to have a quick look at it now and then during my day. It really is beautiful and wise.
The coolest thing for me which I found at the end of the book are the cooking classes Roger Dufau and James F. Twyman have filmed together. In these videos they share some of the thoughts and teachings that James received from Roger at Drew House. And of course Roger also shares some quick recipes. The recipes aren’t really suitable for vegetarians or lactose-intolerant people like me, but the way of dealing with food with love and respect and all that Roger does is one that you can apply to whatever dish you prepare. So I encourage everybody to watch those videos. Search for Roger Dufau on YouTube.
“If people love you, they want you to grow. If people don’t want you to grow, then you can call the feelings that they have for you by many names. But you can’t call it love.” Rob Bell
Let me comment on that:
It’s your task to love yourself and grow so that you can love them no matter what they do, say or feel towards you. That’s gonna change the world. That’s what love is about. The people who are unable to love you and support you in your growth are your greatest teachers.
If we keep condemning those people, we keep holding onto war. Because that’s nothing different. War isn’t just shooting with guns on other people or dropping bombs on their heads. War is judging ourselves and other people for what we are or what we are not, for what they are and what they are not. If we truly understand the concept of Oneness, then we know that we are them and they are us. And that what we send out towards them comes back to us immediately. So, if you judge somebody for not loving you or supporting you, you basically judge yourself for not loving and supporting yourself. It’s never about somebody else. It’s always about you.
Find the love in yourself and start giving it to others in the way that your soul wants to express itself. Stop judging. Stop blaming. Start loving. And keep doing it. That’s gonna bring peace on Earth.
And so it is.
P.S.: If you want to explore the concept of Oneness and Giving and Receiving even more, I suggest you watch the movie “The Moses Code”.
I bought this course as part of the Hay House World Summit 2013 download package and I’m so glad I did. This course is amazing and Anita of course is amazing. She is so positive, uplifting and helpful. I love to listen to her interviews and the same goes for this online course.
One of her often repeated messages is that you do not have to do anything to become somebody else, to better yourself or change yourself. You are good like you are and it is important to love yourself like you are now. In a world that is constantly telling us that we do have to work to be loved, this her saying is such a relief. It takes so much pressure off my shoulders. And probably not only of mine.
I also very much resonate with Anita’s saying that we need to teach our children to love themselves and that self-love is not selfish, but necessary to create a more loving and empathising world.
The Dying To Be Me Online Course consists of 4 lessons which you can buy as downloads to listen to them at your convenience. I find this helpful as I have realised that I intuitively listen to a lesson when I need it and I need a few weeks to process a lesson. Because it does something within.
A lesson consists of Anita speaking about certain topics like accepting and loving yourself like you are, fears and how to transcend them and seeing life as a gift, an exercise and a meditation. And in the end callers can ask questions. Especially the exercise and the meditation are not only helpful, but very much and very deeply healing. And Anita is right to say ‘Keep your tissues ready’.
When she at the end of each lesson takes calls from all over the world, I find it quite amazing how she tunes into every caller and comes up with the exact right words and sometimes to her own surprise with completely new exercises tailored to the respective person. This in practice shows that we are all connected, something she also talks about in lesson 3.
I would highly recommend this course for everyone who is struggling to love himself/herself and to accept where one is right now in life.
If you want to buy the Dying To Be Me Online Course, go to the Hay House website.